Publisher's Synopsis
Everyone has right and everyone has virtue.
Each of the spouses has a right over the other, as well as each
of them has matters of virtue with regard to the other, which is
evident in the verses of Quran and Hadith that talked about
the rights of the husband and wife, one of (these verses) is:
His Almighty's saying: { المعروف ���� ولھن مثل الذي علیھن ب } "And due
to them [i.e., the wives] is similar to what is expected of them,
according to what is reasonable". It means: They (husbands)
should fear Allah towards them (wives) just as it is obligatory
for them (wives) to fear Allah towards them (husbands). Ibn
'Abbas said: I adorn myself for my wife as she adorns herself
for me, because Allah says: { ولھن مثل الذي علیھن بالمعروف } "And
due to them [i.e., the wives] is similar to what is expected of
them, according to what is reasonable".1 Each spouse has
rights over the other, so each of them should fulfil other's
right.
The wife should fulfil the rights of her husband by obeying
him and protecting his home and money. Describing the
greatness of the husband's right, the prophet -Peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him- said: لو كنت آمراً أحداً أن یسجد لأحد
ا�������� جد لزوجھ �������� رأة أن تس �������� رت الم �������� لأم ) "If I were to order anyone to
prostrate himself before another, I would have ordered a
woman to prostrate herself before her husband".2
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)
said to a woman: ( ا���� ت م ���� ھ ؟ قال ���� أذات زوج أنت ؟ قالت نعم قال كیف أنت ل
آلوه ( أي لا أقصّر في حقھ ) إلا ما عجزت عنھ . قال فانظري أین أنت منھ فإنما
ارك ���� ك ون ���� و جنت ���� ھ) "Do you have a husband?" She said, "Yes." He
said: "How are you with him?" She said, "I do not neglect any
1 Al-Mughni (10/220), Editted by Dr. Al-Turki, a, d Al-Hulw. Published by Dar Alamil Kutub.
2 Transmitted by Al-Tirmidhi (1159) and others.
of his rights except those I am unable to fulfil." He said:
"Look at how you are with him, for he is your paradise and
your hell".1 And he ordered the husband to act kindly toward
women, as he said: ( رًا ���� اءِ خَیْ ���� وا بِالنِّسَ ���� اسْتَوْصُ ) "act kindly towards
women".2 And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be
upon him) said in his last sermon: ( إِنَّكُمْ �������� اءِ فَ �������� ي النِّسَ �������� َ فِ ���� اتَّقُوا ا َّ �������� فَ
���� ةِ ا َّ �������� رُوجَھُنَّ بِكَلِمَ �������� تَحْلَلْتُمْ فُ ���� ِ وَاسْ ���� انِ ا َّ �������� ذْتُمُوھُنَّ بِأَمَ ���� أَخَ ) "Show fear towards
Allah regarding women, for you have got them under Allah's
security, and have the right to intercourse with them by
Allah's word."3
The husband is required to cajole his wife and win her heart,
and to be patient on errors made by her - as long as it's not
detrimental to the right of Allah or his right - and the wife is
required to be kind and obedient so long as that does not entail
disobedience towards Allah. With this and that the marital life
is straightened and family gets happy.
