Publisher's Synopsis
I was exposed to countless situations while coaching and training individuals, companies and organizations over the last 25 years. I have done everything from leadership, customer service and inspirational training in front of thousands of people to small groups. All of these settings presented various opportunities for people to come to me and discuss their relationship issues along with many other topics. I have always been pretty good at devising a master plan and establishing direction. But I found myself being drawn to a particular area sometime back and as a result, I landed here, "Waging a War Against Divorce" and helping couples rekindle the fire in their marriage.
Initially, I started out talking to women about their marriage in an effort to stop them from ending up in my situation. You see, some years back I found myself divorced and raising two children alone. A lot of people like to place blame on the other party. But the truth is that no one is perfect, and no one is totally innocent when it comes to divorce. Even if we are not the one largely responsible for the trauma that caused the divorce, most of us would be hard pressed to say that each of us couldn't have done something or said something better. It takes two people to be married, and potentially it takes two people to get a divorce unless there is an extreme issue like addiction, infidelity or abuse involved.
What I found as I talked to the women, was that we were emotionally driven in situations that needed rational thought. And the state of being emotional and the state of being rational are in intense competition with each other. Our conversation, our actions, and our mannerisms determined the outcome in a lot of our situations because we were not thinking; we were just speaking based on how the person or situation made us feel. As we came up with solutions for each couple we found that the outcome was amazing and produced great results. The couples were getting stronger, and things began to take a turn for the better. Over time, I found that the husbands were very receptive to the changes that were taking place in their wives and I ended up counseling more couples than I did individuals.
Now, I find myself in a very wonderful but peculiar place. I do more couples training than I do individual women, as it pertains to marriage. The success that they have experienced in rekindling or recommitting to their marriages was a clear indicator that I was on to something special. That is why we are here together sharing the idea of love and happiness to the masses.
Love is a truth; it is a reality. Love never fails, so it is important to get you to that stage with each other first. I have set out on a mission to wage a war against divorce, miscommunication, and discord when it comes to dealing with someone that you love.
