Publisher's Synopsis
Regardless of whether you are a parent or not, this book about parenting has something to offer everyone - regardless of their age or stage in life.
To gain a better comprehension of your children, partner, family members, friends and co-workers; but more importantly to understand yourself - including the formation of your self-esteem, compulsive behavior patterns and insecurities - it is essential that you take time to reflect upon how experiences from childhood have shaped who you are today.Parenting can be an incredibly rewarding experience when done right, but it is important to remember that taking care of children and helping them meet their developmental needs starts with addressing the trauma experienced by parents during their own childhood. As a result, the growth process must start within each parent before they can effectively help foster development in children. This book offers a unique perspective on parenting - the Parenting Flywheel. It will provide you with an understanding of how your childhood has influenced your current style of parenting and offer strategies to heal, process, and become the parent you want to be. Through discovering purpose, meaning, and ultimately joy in being a parent this guide can help create positive change for both you and your children. We don't have to be defined by the hardships of our childhood, and even more importantly, we can choose not to pass down those same traumas onto our loved ones. We are capable of growing emotionally beyond what we experienced during earlier stages in life, allowing us to cultivate healthy relationships with our children, partners, friends and coworkers. It is never too late to enjoy a meaningful and fulfilling life and leave behind lasting legacy that matters.Topics covered in this bookChildhood reflection
- The childhood fairy tale
- Why the fairy tale is dangerous
- Beware of your childhood triggers
- The game of thrones Childhood version
- The only goal that matters in parenting
- Understanding identity
- Proactive and reactive parenting
- Goals of proactive parenting
- Self care
- Be the adult that you want your child to grow into
- Be Vulnerable
- Always give a choice
- Embrace routines
- Catch them doing well
- Scaffold behaviors
- Keep Your Promises
- Don't Impose Your Expectations On Your Child
- Parental love
- Knowing when to ask for help
- See your child for who they are
- Be emotionally present with your child
- Develop your emotional vocabulary
- Listen to their concerns
- Have fun and be present
- Set Boundaries
- The school is as important as the family home
- Volunteer
- Never forget you are the adult
- Make gratitude your routine
- Mindfulness
- Believe in something greater
- Be your child's expert
- Stop chasing the extra curricular league
Reactive parenting
- Model when things go wrong-
- All emotions are OK
- Always Be Bigger, Wiser, Stronger And Kind
- When you drop the ball-
- Behavior is communication
- Avoid the common sense trap
- Look out for Anxiety-
- Defensiveness
- Have the difficult conversations
- Lies & confabulations
- Siblings fighting each other
- Embrace technology
