Publisher's Synopsis
Based on data from more than 11,000 surveys of children and parents of divorce, Collateral Damage supplies parents with an overview of the effect that divorce has on their children and suggests solutions to better fulfill their needs at this vital time.
In the United States, approximately half of all marriages fail.Add to that the rising number of couples who never marry, have children together, and eventually go their own ways. In all of these instances, children suffer significantly-sometimes in silence, as parents do not know how to successfully manage their kids. When the pain and emotional concerns of children are not treated, the cycle of divorce is likely to continue for them and in generations that follow. In addition, although children may seem to be strong and coping, without sufficient assistance, children of divorce are more prone to drug and alcohol misuse, criminal conduct, mental and physical sickness, and suicide. How do parents handle their own pain, shock, fury, and despair so that they can give their children what they need?
"Collateral Damage" sounds like a wake-up call for parents. It highlights the land mines inherent in the treacherous terrain of divorce and empowers parents to assist their children not to feel abandoned or ignored. Topics covered include:
Building the family-not losing it
Tuning in to your kids
Stabilizing childhood
Maintaining parent-child roles
Avoiding the parental handoff
Keeping kids out of the battle zone
Instilling trust and keeping open channels of communication
Attuning to guiding, spiritual resources
The collapse of a marriage does not equal the end of the family. Providing a solid, supportive, healthy connection with your kid illustrates what a loving relationship looks like and better prepares them for intimate relationships and marriage as an adult.
