Publisher's Synopsis
"A genuinely 21st century book! Kegan and Lahey create a dynamic alternative to mere coasting on the momentum of the information age. Why do we know so much and yet so little lasting change actually occurs–in ourselves and in our organizations? This book doesn′t just answer the question. It shows us a way out of the problem."
-Michael Murphy, founder, Esalen Institute and author of The Future of the Body
Why is the gap so great between our hopes, our intentions, even our decisions–and what we are actually able to bring about? Even when we are able to make important changes–in our own lives or the groups we lead at work–why are the changes are so frequently short–lived and we are soon back to business as usual? What can we do to transform this troubling reality?
In this intensely practical book, Harvard psychologists Robert Kegan and Lisa Laskow Lahey take us on a carefully guided journey designed to help us answer these very questions. And not just generally, or in the abstract. They help each of us arrive at our own particular answers that can solve the puzzling gap between what we intend and what we are able to accomplish.
How the Way We Talk Can Change the Way We Work provides you with the tools to create a powerful new build–it–yourself mental technology that allows you to:
- Diagnose your own immunity to change
- Unleash the boundless energy currently trapped in this immune system
- Maintain and upgrade this state–of–the–art mental technology for lasting change.
The building blocks for this new technology are seven transformational languages, each permitting new kinds of thinking, feeling, and experiencing. Kegan and Lahey show us how we can use these languages–in our conversations with colleagues, friends, and as importantly, in the way we talk to ourselves–to transform:
- Our complaints into commitments
- Our blaming into responsibility
- Our view of our own ineffectiveness into an understanding of its hidden genius
- The assumptions we take as truths into exploreable, changeable ways of understanding ourselves and the world
- Our tendency to praise and prize into deep–running ongoing regard
- Social regulation by rules and personnel policies into the power of public agreement
- Destructive and even constructive criticism into the bigger possibilities of "deconstructive criticism"
You′ll want to read this book with pen in hand. The authors invite you in, not as an observer but as an active participant–to help you make powerful, lasting change in your life and the lives of those you seek to help or lead.
The authors
Robert Kegan, Ph.D., is the William and Miriam Meehan Professor of Adult Learning and Professional Development at the Harvard Graduate School of Education, and author of The Evolving Self and In Over Our Heads.
Lisa Laskow Lahey, Ed.D., is research director of the Change Leadership Project at the Harvard University Graduate of Education.
Advance praise for How the Way We Talk Can Change the Way We Work
"Lucid, accessible, and immensely satisfying, this provocative book is plainly the product of a very deep understanding of why people behave the way they do. . . . an approach to change that is at once systematic and humane. . . . breakthrough thinking. . . compelling and inspiring."
-Tony Schwartz, contribution editor, Fast Company , and author, What Really Matters
"A minor masterpiece. . . .In this simple brilliant book, Kegan and Lahey not only deal with the how of transformation. . . . they deal with the most central issue of all: how and why people (and organizations) are committed to not changing. . . . a must–read for all individuals and organizations that truly wish to grow into their own greater possibilities."
-Ken Wilber, author, Integral Psychology
"By providing extraordinary practical wisdom, this book enables us to move from organizational frustration to collective achievement. An invaluable gem."
-Ronald Heifetz, author, Leadership Without Easy Answers
"Maps both a personal transformative experience for the reader and the social arrangements that support this significant mode of adult learning. A unique and invaluable resource for adult educators, leaders in organizations, and every adult learner."
-Jack Mezirow, emeritus professor of adult and continuing education, Teachers College, Columbia University
"Leaders trying to ′drive change′ miss the deeper forces that might naturally enable it, forces which Kegan and Lahey reveal powerfully and practically."
-Peter Senge, author, The Fifth Discipline: The Art and Practice of the Learning Organization
"This is a how–to–do–it book for reflective practitioners. Step by step, it teaches educators and leaders how to build highly collaborative, creative, and caring communities."
-Mary Field Belenky, coauthor, Women′s Ways of Knowing
"New, practical, and effective strategies for today′s core leadership challenge: how to transform behavior in ourselves and others-without the debilitating crisis that is usually needed–by seeing and transcending the forces that hold us back."
-Michael Jung, director, McKinsey & Company
